Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Work & Life, Combined?


I think it was college - when this all started. When I started to realize that there was not enough of me to get good grades in school, work a part time job, spend time with my friends, keep in touch with my family, attend terpAMA meetings, participate in my sorority’s philanthropy… When I started to feel the pressure of time, and the fear of not having enough of it.

The quest for work-life balance has become an ever-increasing hardship for me. Maybe it’s a part of growing up. Maybe it’s what helps us mature.

I don't know. But I do know that this semester has shone a light on the issue for me. Devoting four months to the study of work-life balance has provoked new ways of looking at it; and to be honest, I don’t know if it’s gotten easier, or if it’s gotten even harder.

After an entire semester of researching “work-life-balance” concepts and ideas, I continue to ask myself how it can really be achieved.

Yes, everything I’ve written and everything I’ve felt and believed work-life balance should be sounds nice in theory. But what happens when my kids need money for college, when my mortgage bills ring the doorbell at the end of the month, when the car breaks down and needs to be replaced? How do you focus so passionately on the things you want to do in life, when there are so many things that you need to do? And how do you differentiate between a want and a need?

Well, I’m still trying to figure that out for myself. But I’m not the only one. In fact, the issue has become so prevalent in America that President Obama and First Lady Michelle spoke passionately about their own struggles with work-life balance just a few months ago. They discussed a need for “action on the issue of workplace flexibility.”

So what is the future for work-life balance in America?

Large corporations are beginning to answer this question.

SAS, a business analytics and software company, is proclaimed one of the top ten “Best Companies to Work For” by CNN Money. The reason for this being the company’s amazing job benefits and perks. As an SAS employee, there’s no more need to worry about child day care – just bring your kid to work! The company offers high-quality, low cost child care, on top of a free medical center if you ever get sick, a free fitness and massage center if you’re feeling stressed, and of course, a country club complete with golf courses, tennis courts, and swimming pools, just in case you simply need a break at work.

Or how about S.C. Johnson? Working at this cleaning product giant comes with discounted services that include, but are not limited to, mailing packages, sending flowers, picking up or delivering groceries, researching car insurance deals, changing the oil in your car, and even standing in line for concert tickets.  

If that isn’t enough, you could give Google a try. As number one best company to work for, Google offers its employees the opportunity to bring their dogs to work, do their laundry at the free laundry machines, use one of the four gyms, get an unsubsidized massage, eat at one of the sixteen gourmet cafes for free, and the list goes on and on.

These are just three examples of companies that have begun to pioneer the movement of workplace flexibility. However, for these firms, the solution to helping employees overcome the struggle of balancing their work lives with their home lives, has simply been to offer services that bring some of the tasks typically done at home, right into the workplace itself.

I am not by any means saying that walking my dog beside my co-workers through the halls at Google is a hard life.

But I can’t help but wonder what is next. If we are now able to bring our pets and our children to work, when will it be our mattresses and our pillows…?

Thursday, November 8, 2012

An Image of Work-Life Balance


Wikipedia defines “work” as one’s career or profession. It defines “lifestyle” as one’s social life, intellect, psychological well-being, spiritual beliefs, health, and recreation.

Let’s paint a mental image of Work-Life Balance. To start, let’s draw one of those plastic scales - the kind we used back in elementary science class to measure different gram weights. Now let’s add in 24 grams (or 24 hours) of life activities.

We can start with the “Work” side: A 12g metal weight labeled, “Career.” Place that weight into the left tray. That side will now likely slam down to the counter.

Okay, on to the “Life” side: Six, 2g metal weights labeled, “Social Life,” “Intellect,” “Psychology,” “Spirituality,” “Health,” and “Recreation.” Slowly, as they are added to the right tray, the scale should see-saw into equilibrium. The one big 12-gram “Work” weight should balance out the six mini 2-gram “Life” weights. And our image of Work-Life Balance is complete.

There we go! Work-Life Balance perfectly defined!

…Right?

Actually, I’m sure that most of you are reading and thinking, wrong. And you are right about that. The first way that WorkLifeBalance.com introduces the topic is by stating, “Work Life Balance does not mean an equal balance.”

What this means is that the ideal image of what work-life balance looks like depends on who it is that’s imagining it.

For this blog, I want to share my personal idea of work-life balance, and invite others to recognize their own opinions.
So often we wonder where the time goes. What if we first decide where we want it to go, and then direct it to go there?

When I look into my future, it’s very blurry. I don’t know who my husband will be. I don’t know what my job will be. I don’t know where I’m going to live.

But I do know how I want to feel. I want to feel successful. And, to me, success means growing to become the best version of yourself in all aspects of your life. To me, success is finding a career that you are passionate about, without forgetting the importance of downtime. It means loving and caring for your family, without taking time away from personal hobbies. It means having faith in a higher power, without ceasing to remain physically fit.
To me success has no measurements. To me, success is happiness.

I want to be happy at my job. I want to be excited to wake up on Monday mornings. I want to be challenged to improve my skillset, and rewarded with personal growth. I want to be proud of what I do each day, and know that I have a purpose in my career. 

I want to be happy with my family. I want to love and trust and support my husband. I want to care for and nurture my children. I want to go on family vacations, cook family dinners, coach my kids' soccer teams. I want to see my family members smile, and know that I am a part of their joy.

I want to be happy with my health. I want to eat right and exercise regularly. I want to stay physically fit, as well as spiritually connected. I want to believe in miracles, so that I never lose faith, so that I keep an open mind, so that I remind myself that anything’s possible. 

I don’t know how to paint this image. I don’t know where I’d start, what kind of scale I’d use, or how many gram weights to take into account.

But I do know that this is how I want to spend my time. And if strive for this image of balance, I know I will be successful in my own, personal way.